Do you find it hard to stop thinking? Do you wake up in the middle of the night and immediately your mind clicks into high gear – so you’re thinking instead of sleeping? Sometimes we think that we are getting a leg up on solving our problems and getting a head start on the day, but is this true? My mind begins to buzz and flip from topic to topic like a Rolodex and do I really think I’m getting somewhere? This catches up with me later in the day. After lunch, my mind says, ‘where’s that bed I was thinking in at 4:00 am this morning?’ I know some people who have a thinking chair and they spend some time in it every day – just to think. That’s a good idea. I have just such a chair that I could use for that purpose. I could think in that chair – on purpose. That’s a novel idea – to set some time aside for intentional thinking and problem solving. It just might free my mind up. What if I carried a pencil and pad around with me and when a problem came up that my mind wanted to dwell on at that moment, I just wrote it down. I could let my gray matter know that ‘we have a time set aside for that, so just let it go for now and concentrate on the task at hand.’ Beds are not for thinking in, they are for sleeping in. These two things should not be confused or our world gets turned upside down. I find that when I use my bed for thinking, I use the chair for sleeping. This is not good. When I need to be alert in the day, I am tired. When I need to relax and sleep, I am wired. How do I turn my brain off? At some point this thinking is over-rated. Just as land needs to lay fallow every so many years in order to rejuvenate, so does my brain. What if it won’t cooperate? Would it help if I really believed that everything does not fall on my shoulders; if I knew there was a God in heaven who cared about me, who is more powerful than me, more intelligent than me and had his eye on me all the time? Could I then rest at night and stop thinking that if I just do ‘one more thing’ I’ll avoid the ever-threatening chaos? He does exist and He does care for me, so why does my mind still spin like a whirling dervish? Why the compulsion? I wonder if the antithesis of faith is compulsion.
****Collaborate with a life coach to make the life changes you’ve been dreaming about. Just do it! That troublesome relationship can change; you can form new behavioral patterns; you can live the life you were designed for. A coach will help you get there. For a free 20-minute coaching session visit my website!